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Should one put their Best Foot Forward OR Should one Be Who They Really Are when out looking?
PREM PANDIT TIPS:
Prem Pandit.......... The beauty of unconditional love is Divine! Be the Real Self and the divine shall be attained!
A loving relationship with yourself is a prerequisite to having a healthy love relationship with someone else.
Experience the empowering feeling of allowing yourself the freedom to be who you need to be in your next relationship. . . right now. You have already experienced the past. Want more of that? Continue to focus on it and you will not be disappointed.
We must create a future worth living into. The old way of being in a relationship isn't good enough. We must invent the kind of relationship we want, then go about devoting our time and energy to making it happen. It will happen when we care enough to give ourselves the very best of everything.
Every person needs to love themselves unconditionally to be able to pass it on. You know you better than anyone. Ask yourself: "Who would I have to become to be the kind of person I would enjoy being with for the rest of my life?"
Spend some prayerful moments thanking God for the choice to choose the courage to become that person. Then, do what needs to be done.
Okay. So, you have been attracted to a real sweetheart and you are about to march towards 'Destination of the UNKNOWNS,'. What to do? Naturally everyone would want to put our best foot forward. We have a thing about being really cool during the first initial meetings. Often we withhold who we really are, afraid that if this attraction would come to know the truth about you, and would very quickly distance from you.
This is why we must learn to communicate more effectively how we feel to the one we like and love. It is the nature of every person that they would love other person who are sensitive to their needs; who demonstrate that they care; who communicate understanding by listening to what they say (and when we are unclear about what they say. . . we ask questions - this shows we are really listening); and most of all, people love other people who treat them with respect.
Showing up as Mr or Ms Chamak (Shiny and Cleany); shoes shined, clean, cool perfume and looking sharp. Most people are attracted to someone who is well presentable however, there is more to it than that. What do you communicate from your heart? Do you say what you feel needs to be said in a loving way?
Always make a good eye contact. This shows you are paying attention. It also suggests someone who is self-confident. People whose eyes drift are, right or wrong, thought to be uncertain of themselves. To other person, this could be a red flag.
Have meaningful conversations about things that count. Watch your words. Remember, you cannot stop a spoken word. Once out there, words can be loving or hating. As Prem Pandit always points out there is very fine line between LOVE and HATE!
Be brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable; to reveal those bits and pieces of yourself that communicate the real you. This does not mean boring other person with your past. . . only the relevant truth; what's real for you in this relationship.
HateGuru cautions you that you can be the cool one for 1st time, 2nd time, the 3rd time but then at some point you are going to be the real you and so trying to pretend to be someone that you may not be can result into a disaster in the due course!
Such situtations can then take you into the unwanted discussions that can lead to unrequired stress trying to deal with the arguments of "You were so sensitive and caring when we first met. What's happened to that wonderful person that swept me off my feet?" Or the person may think it and never say it, leaving you to wonder, "What's wrong in that person?"
Listen carefully. Relationships are a bit of a puzzle for most men anyway. When a man and a woman finally get together, the glaring differences show up.
Always try to do your best. All the time. Not only when in pursuit. Not only when it's broken and needs to be fixed. Every day and every minute. Do what works. If you send thoughtful greeting cards, leave love notes and, for no reason, give your partner an occasional flower. . . continue that process. Partners love romance!
The Supreme power have had you here for a reason and in his own ways wants what is right for you. And it takes care and attention to your own wants and needs first, for you to be able to take on the responsibility of a committed, healthy love relationship.
Be yourself. . . right now! It's a shame to try to be someone you think someone else thinks you should be. It is not possible. Be the real you all the time.
Demonstrate your own authenticity. When you do, you never have to worry that six months down the road, that your partner or the dream one that you pursued is going to be disappointed because they think the person they are seeing now is not the same person they fell in love with.
You must learn to reveal yourselves the right way to others keeping that right distance and the right relevant facts that are must to be shared. Let them be sure of who you are. It takes constant attention to detail. Allow no miscommunication that would create room for misunderstandings.
Prem Pandit........ There is nothing inherently wrong with putting your best foot forward if done the right way with the clean heart and mind!
